How I Met Your Father

People always ask me how it is that my husband Travis, a soft-spoken, patient guy from Wisconsin and I, an outspoken, not patient girl from Brooklyn, met.

How people meet is sometimes a curiosity to most, I guess. I rarely ever ask anyone that question unless it is asked of me first. And I think that with us, it has so much to do with how it is that two very different people, from two very different parts of the country…actually, it seems THE WORLD, met and fell in love. It’s inevitable that with all the curiosity around how two such different people came together that even my own kids will one day want to know how I met their father.

Well, “lucky” for us, a reporter from the New York Observer was also curious about how these two very different people met, fell in love and got engaged to be married – so much so that she interviewed us and wrote about it.

We were so excited to talk about how we met (online) to anyone, that well, we forgot we were talking to a newspaper reporter. She interviewed us separately, when neither of us could really censor what the other one was saying. My husband obviously must’ve forgotten when he told her how I barked at him when we first glanced at each other, and I, well, obviously was very excited about my husband’s hard abs. Oh, our children will be so, so proud.

Point is, that when I read and think back at how adventurous we were in finding each other it reminds me that despite our differences – in experiences, cultures, life – we fell in love. And truthfully, at the core of who we are we found similarities that unite us till this day.

Two very different people, with two very free spirits took a leap of faith and though we both admit we weren’t really searching for love on that cold January night, we found it. We met that night, fell in love that night, and have been together ever since.

It’s the thing that makes the unexpected journey, the courage to follow your heart, the willingness to do what most wouldn’t dare so exciting and fabulous. In meeting my husband I broke every single rule I was ever taught as a woman and as a Latina. And I’m sure that as a guy from Wisconsin, he broke a few of them himself too. And here we are.

Nowadays, online dating, like online anything, isn’t so weird or scary or even all that rare (I don’t really think it was then either, but people just wouldn’t admit to it)…and I kinda like to think that it took someone sort of crazy like me to love someone crazy like me.

Yeah, we are pretty different in many ways. We sometimes even argue because of it. But, we work so well because of it too, which is kinda cool.

So, for all those who have asked and want to know and wonder how did my husband and I meet well, this is how (New York Observer – scroll down to Carol Alvarez and Travis Cain). It was funny and unexpected, just like most awesome things in life are.

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